Moving Full Speed Ahead with Giving Birth To My Parents

With Ruby’s help, my new assistant, we are gonna kick this site out of the park.

Elderly and Aging Blogs….hopefully, my blog will answer alot of questions, assist many that never received the handbook on aging..and read the blog for pieces of joy and sadness that occurs with living.


Championing for parents, aging, saging and anything that has to do with the elderly…Make me your point person….

Ask me about seniors, aging, parents, etc….

I love the topic…I loved writing the book….

I am here…


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There ain’t nothing like a Mother!!!!

Huffington Posted this article….In honor of all Mothers.

Happy Mother’s Day, Blanche!!! Fly Blanche Fly…….



04/26/2016 05:05 pm ET | Updated 2 days ago

To My Friends Who Still Have Their Mothers

Dear friends who still have their mothers,

It came like a thief — 10 months almost exactly from the day she was diagnosed until the day she left us. Cancer has a way of doing that, robbing its victims and their families of health and freedom. One day we’re doing life together, making plans for the future — and the next we’re fighting this battle and eventually saying goodbye.

I never imagined I’d lose my mom this way or so soon. I couldn’t have planned or prepared for it. Her fate swooped in like a thief and took her away before I ever had the chance to fully realize what was happening.

And because of my faith I stand with peace and continue to hope but still…

This Mother’s Day, I am — for the first time — a mom without a mother. I will receive cards and gifts and lots of love, but I cannot give them. I cannot express my gratitude, despite her imperfections, with lavish love. I cannot thank her for all she taught me about being a mom, both good and bad. I cannot share how much she’s impacted my life, as a mom and a wife and a woman.


So dear friends who still have their mothers,

Whether you walk extremely close or there’s a valley of difference between you, reach out to your mother this week.

Whether you see eye to eye or you can’t agree on much of anything, look your mother in the eyes if you can and tell her how special she is.

Whether she’s loved you well or lacked in affection, tell her how much you appreciate her and linger in love through words or embrace.

Whether she’s been your role model or she’s shown you what not to do, tell her how much you’ve learned from her.

Whether she’s been a near perfect mother or a much less than perfect one, she’s still here and that fact alone leaves so much potential for you both.

Call her, embrace her, surround her with your love whether it comes easy or along with tons of baggage.

Reach out for reconciliation if you are estranged.

Reach out in compromise if you are indifferent.

Reach out with time and attention if you are busy.

Reach out with affection if you are reserved.

Reach out with generous love even if you already do it regularly.

This time last year, I never dreamed I’d spend Mother’s Day without my mom. Please, don’t let another day slip by without connecting with yours.

Happy Mother’s Day, friends. May you find grace to give and receive so much love.

This post originally appeared at Grace for Moms.

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Old Friend Memories

I just finished your wonderful book and just loved it!!!!!  I related to so many of your stories and could hear you narrate every word. I know we were never really close. I call it close by association, but I always felt that you had a true interest in all people . I was not surprised to read that you are  a life coach.  I must tell you that I cried reading about your father. It has been a long time since my parents passed but similar phenomenon happened to me when my mom died in 1971.  I could write you a book about my reactions to your story, but not today.  I just wanted to send you my heartfelt congratulations on a job well done.  You made me laugh, cry and just think about my life in so many different ways…


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A reader’s thoughts on the JFS article

“You two are so full of joy it makes life worth living again.  Thank you for being, and for sharing with me.”

Kate M.

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An article from Jewish Family Services of Colorado

Stories of Hope

Boulder JFS
Boulder JFS Provides Much-Needed Support to
Blanche and Lorrie Caplan


By Emily Andrews

In 2010, when Blanche Caplan was 85, she flew to Colorado to visit her daughter and son, Lorrie and Wayne Caplan. Blanche never made the return trip home to Philadelphia; she suffered a few strokes during her visit that rendered her incapable of caring for herself.

Overnight, Lorrie found herself as her mother’s caregiver. As Blanche recovered, she moved into The Carillon, a retirement community, and started a new life in Boulder. Before the stroke, Blanche lived independently and took regular trips to Atlantic City, NJ where she loved to gamble. Lorrie had a full life, too. An intuitive life coach, abstract watercolor painter, published author, and a pop song writer, Lorrie’s life was focused on helping her clients and pursuing her artistic endeavors.

Fortunately, Lorrie had the insight many years earlier to devote herself to forming a healthy and happy relationship with her parents while her father was still alive. She wrote a book about her experience, titled “Giving Birth to My Parents.” That groundwork made all the difference in both Blanche and Lorrie’s present situation. Caring for Blanche and attending to her needs has become Lorrie’s primary concern. At times, her role of caregiver can be overwhelming, but Boulder JFS has been able to step in with support.
Blanche attends JFS holiday services and celebrations at The Carillon and has also been matched with Friendly Visitor, Lisa Shanken.

“Meeting Lisa Shanken has been the most wonderful experience  for my mother, Blanche,” said Lorrie. “They are so connected and my mother’s world is better because of this match and connection. Lisa is family to her and Blanche is completely in love with her and looks forward to her visits.” 

Additionally, with encouragement from JFS care manager Jodi Ansell, Lorrie joined JFS’s monthly adult caregiver support group.

Now 90 years old, Blanche has found her way in Boulder. A cinema fan, Blanche watches movies at The Carillon’s theater daily, if not twice a day, and still gets out occasionally to gamble. She recently started an “I love you campaign” among the residents, attendants, and families at The Carillon. Anytime someone helps Blanche, she graces him or her with an “I love you.” 

For Lorrie, her mother’s compassion, kindness, and gratitude provide her with the strength to continue in her care-giving role. “It’s always a trip to see my mom so fiery, feisty, and funny with everyone she meets!”

New revised and updated book on sale
Amazon kindle $10.

from a dear friend in austin, tx

Thanks for sharing sweetie, so nice to read that your mom is doing well, enjoying her life in her new surroundings and making new friends that love her so much !
You are a gift Lorrie and your mom is blessed with so much love surrounding her and it’s obvious you get your joy for life from her energy and passion !

Please purchase it as a gift for someone you love.

A percentage of all sales goes to Jewish Family services of colorado.
Lorrie Caplan

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MOM going to be 90….

Its hard to believe. ..watching mom age…I see it as a future screen for me…just knowing and gathering all types of information…storing it in the back of my mind.

Momma continues to be a delight still focusing on speaking like a mother with words of wisdom salted by the spark in her eye.

I watch her daily as she hungers to stay connected to her friends, the residents, the staff at The Carillon.  She oozes love and compassion, laughter and aliveness on her good days.

I hold her close and tell her that she’s my sweetheart. There’s a new willingness that lives her that wasn’t there before.

“You are my idol, my daughter.” She reminds me everyday. The questions, comments and feedback are so worth the gold that her life is.

I am so very blessed by Blanche in every way good.

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May 12th…A booth at the The Caregivers Symposium in Longmont

Lorrie Caplan, Author of Giving Birth To My Parents book will be for sale at The Caregivers Symposium in Longmont on May 12th 9:30 – 5pm….Please come –it’s free admission….Come find my booth….And know that I look forward to meeting and seeing you there….

Also please Mark your calendars now!  The Caregiving Symposium, Boulder County Area Agency on Aging’s annual educational event for family caregivers (and the general public), is on Tuesday, May 12, 9:30 a.m. – 5 p.m., at the Plaza Convention Center, 1850 Industrial Circle, in Longmont (*directions below).  This free event provides a wealth of information for family caregivers of older adults, and includes a large resource fair of service providers, twelve workshops on caregiving topics, educational handouts, lunch, and more.  A flyer (legal-size) is attached, and here’s the agenda:


9:30 a.m. – Check-in begins (come any time during the day); Resource Fair Opens


10:30 – 11:30 a.m. – Workshops:

  • The Basics:  Memory Loss, Dementia and Alzheimer’s
  • S.T.A.M.P. of Care:  Advocating for Others and Yourself in the Modern Day Healthcare System
  • Only You Can Prevent Burnout:  Claiming Responsibility for Your Own Care


11:30 a.m. – 1 p.m. – Buffet Lunch Open  (For pre-registered guests only.  If not pre-registered, you may choose to go to a local restaurant—there are many nearby—but please do not bring outside food or beverages onto the Plaza’s premises.)


1 – 2 p.m. – Workshops:

  • Legal and Financial Issues for Family Caregivers of Older Adults
  • The Validation Method:  A Powerful Way to Enhance Communication with the Person with Dementia
  • Assistive Technology:  Gadgets and Gizmos That Make Life Easier for Older Adults and Caregivers


2:30 – 3:30 p.m. – Workshops:

  • Family Meetings, Facilitation and Mediation:  Tools for Resolving Tough Caregiving Issues
  • Helping Your Loved One Stay Safe by Keeping Strong
  • When Caregiving Hits Early:  Issues of Younger, 60-ish Couples Dealing with Long-Term Conditions


4 p.m. – Resource Fair Closes


4 – 5 p.m. – Workshops:

  • Taking a Break:  Resources and Tips for Making Respite Happen!
  • A Passage in Caregiving:  The Transition to Assisted Living or Nursing Home Care
  • To be announced


NEW THIS YEAR:  YOU MUST PRE-REGISTER FOR THE EVENT IN ORDER TO RECEIVE THE COMPLIMENTARY LUNCH.  Walk-in registration will be allowed, but will not include lunch.  Register by May 5at:


To help family caregivers attend, we offer free on-site elder care by reservation.  Call 303-441-1543 to learn more or to reserve care.


*Directions:  The Best Western Plaza Hotel is at 1900 Ken Pratt Blvd./Hwy 119, between Hover Road and Sunset Street in south Longmont.  The Convention Center sits behind (north of) the hotel, at 1850 Industrial Circle.  From Ken Pratt Blvd./Hwy 119, turn onto Industrial Circle east of the hotel (at Old Chicago restaurant) or west of the hotel (at the BBQ restaurant); either way circles around to the Convention Center (low, long, dark building).  Park in the Convention Center’s east or north lots and enter the main east doors.  They’ll be marked by balloons.


The 2015 Caregiving Symposium is co-sponsored by Aging Services Foundation, Meals on Wheels Boulder, Always Best Care, Boulder County CareConnect, 50 Plus Marketplace News, Prudential Financial, Shield HealthCare, Synergy HomeCare, Accent Care, Hallmark Homecare, HomeCare of the Rockies, Homewatch CareGivers of Boulder County, HomeWell Senior Care, Longmont Senior Services, Vincent, Romeo & Rodriguez, LLC, and Visiting Angels of Boulder County.


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I am re-posting my friends letter…. from: Kristin & Ronnie……

Mother’s Journal
May 10, 2009 at 2:30am

I read this at my Mom’s funeral. Just thought I’d share it with all of you again.

For those who are lucky to still be blessed with your Mom, this is beautiful. For those of us who aren’t, this is even more beautiful…

The young mother set her foot on the path of life. “Is the long way?” she asked. And the guide said, “Yes, and the way is hard. And you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the beginning.” But the young mother was happy and she would not believe that anything could be better than these years.

So she played with her children, she fed them, bathed them and taught them to tie their shoes, ride a bike, do their homework and brush their teeth. The sun shone on them and the young mother cried, “Nothing will ever be lovelier than this.”

Then the nights came, and the storms, and the path was sometimes dark. The children shook with fear and cold, and the mother drew them close and covered them with her arms, and the children said, “Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near and no harm can come.”

And the morning came and there was a hill ahead. And the children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary too. But at all times she said to the children, “A little patience and we are there.” So the children climbed, and as they climbed, they learned to weather the storms. And with this, she gave them strength to face the world.

Year after year she showed them compassion, understanding, and hope, but most of all…unconditional love. And when they reached the top they said, “Mother, we could not have done it without you.”

The days went on, and the weeks and the months and the years, and the mother grew old and she became little and bent. But her children were tall and strong, and walked with courage. And the mother, when she lay down at night, looked up at the stars and said, “This is a better day than the last, for my children have learned so much and are now passing these traits onto their children.”

And when the way became rough for her, they lifted her and gave her their strength, just as she had given them hers.

One day they came to a hill, and beyond the hill they could see a shining road and golden gates flung open. And the mother said, “I have reached the end of my journey. And now I know that the end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk with dignity and pride with their head held high, and so can their children after them.” And the children said, “You will always walk with us Mother, even when you have gone through the gates.”

And they stood and watched her as she went on alone and the gates closed after her. And they said, “We cannot see her but she is with us still. A Mother like ours is more than a memory. She is a living presence.”

Your Mother is always with you. She is the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street. She is the smell of certain foods that you remember, flowers you pick and the perfume that she wore. She is the cool hand on your brow when you’re not feeling well. She is your breath in the air on a cold winter’s day. She is the sound of the rain.

Your Mother lives inside your laughter and she is crystallized in every teardrop. A Mother shares every emotion – happiness, sadness, jealousy, fear, love, hate, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy and sorrow, and all the while hoping and praying you will only know the good feelings in life.

She is the place you came from, your first home, and she is the map that you follow with every step you take.

She is your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you…not time, not space, not even death.

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Memories of Me&Momma on Rollerskates 1976

me and momma on rollerskates

What a wonderful memory…..Hysterical, both of us on Roller Skates…back in the day….

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A little girl’s view of her grandparents….

After spring vacation, a teacher asked her young pupils how they spent their holiday away from school. One child wrote the following:
We always like to spend the holidays with Grandma and Grandpa. They used to live in a big brick house but Grandpa got retarded and they moved to Arizona. Now they live in a tin box and have rocks painted green to look like grass. They ride around on their bicycles and wear name tags because they don’t know who they are anymore.
Every day they go to a building called a wrecked center, but they must have got it fixed because it seems okay now.  They do exercises there, but they don’t do them very well. There is a swimming pool too, but when they get in it, they don’t swim but they all jump up and down with their hats on.
At their gate, there is a doll house with a little old man sitting in it. He watches all day so nobody can escape. Sometimes though  they sneak out and go cruising in their golf carts.
Nobody there cooks, they just eat out. And, they eat the same thing every night ——early birds. Some of the people can’t get out past the man in the doll house. The ones who do get out, bring food back to the wrecked center and they must feel lucky because the call it pot luck.
My Grandma says that Grandpa worked all his life to earn his retardment and says I should work hard so I can be retarded someday too. When I get to be retarded, I want to be the man in the doll house. Then I will let people out so they can visit their grandchildren.
Paul L. Woodcome, Sr.
Myrtle Beach, SC 29588
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