Incredible Letter from Aging Mother to Daughter

My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.

When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way … remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked. When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you … my darling daughter.

 

Original text in Spanish and photo by Guillermo Peña.
Translation to English by Sergio Cadena

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Summer2014

Hello all….Been a while since I’ve posted about Life With Momma (Blanche)
She’s had a series of health issues…that has keep me bending over backward. The thing is the devotion from a daughter to her mother. It runs deep. It’s extremely mind boggling most of the time. Watching the aging process is scary and yet I remain strong. There are so many times that I want to scream and I eventually remember to ask for prayers of strength.
There’s no easy way at this time taking care of Momma. I see differences every day in her mind body and soul. Her heart remembers to be more loving on a daily basis. She is doing amazing “LOVEwork” with all the residents where she lives.
I go away to replenish to start all over again.
Helping, supporting, assisting and guiding, not just Momma but everyone around me.
WE are in the deep throes of late eighties for Momma and there are no disco balls anywhere to be found!

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Holidays 2013

Feeling like this could be a great reminder for all of us in our lives….

Happy Holidaze…..to all of you….

    • Be in the now moment. Lao Tse, from the Tao said: “If you are depressed you are in the past. If you are anxious you are in the future. If you are happy you are in the present moment.”
    • Practice being
    • Get physical exercise, eat well, and put good thoughts into your mind.
    • Live from your heart and soul.
    • Laugh.
    • Love.
    • Play.
    • Be in joy.
    • Live in gratitude.
    • Bless everything even if you don’t like it.
    • Stay focused on your purpose.
    • Connect with other like-minded souls.
    • Speak your truth.
    • Be in nature.
    • Ask for healing when you need it.
    • Remember to call up your angels, guides and masters when you need help.
    • Pay attention. Be aware of everything that is going on around you.
    • Hang around young children and animals to see how present they are.
    • Ask to be of service daily and see how many new ways you can serve.
    • Follow the energy from your heart.
    • Let go of the old ways of seeing yourself and others.
    • Talk to our Creator. When we first came onto the planet a long time ago we were in constant communication with the Creator. We can do it again.
    • Rise above the negativity.
    • Read inspiring books or watch inspiring videos.
    • Transmute/transform that which is no longer serving you. St. Germain’s Violet Flame is good for transmutation.
    • Share your love and humor wherever you go.
    • Don’t take yourself seriously.
    • Learn something new.
    • Give away old clothes and things that you no longer want or need.
    • Practice forgiveness.
    • Share your abundance.
    • Pray and meditate.
    • Create.
    • Go within.
    • Dream about the New Earth.
    • Know that you are unlimited.
    • Empower yourself.
    • Correct yourself when you know you are wrong.
    • Stop procrastinating. Do it now!

 

 

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From Maya Angelou

Don’t break the elastic!
In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed byOprah on her 70+ birthday.. Oprah asked her what she thought of growing older.  And, there on television, she said it was ‘exciting…’

Regarding body changes, she said there were many, occurring every day…..like her breasts. They seem to be in a race to see which will reach her waist, first.
The audience laughed so hard they cried. She is such a simple and honest woman, with so much wisdom in her words!

Maya Angelou said this:
‘I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.’

‘I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by
the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.’

‘I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.’

‘I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as ‘making a life.’

‘I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second
chance.’

‘I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a
catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back…’

‘I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an
open heart, I usually make the right decision.’

‘I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.’

‘I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back…’

‘I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn..’

‘I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.’

Please send this to five phenomenal women today… and back to me if you think i’m one also.  If you do, something good will happen: You will boost another woman’s self-esteem..

If you don’t….the elastic will break and your underpants will fall down around your ankles!

Believe me, I didn’t take any chances on MY elastic
breaking…..I sent it to a lot of special women I care
for…
 


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Sweet Lorraine

what a gorgeous story of love….

read on…

The Heartwarming Story of an Elderly Widower’s Heartbreaking Song

When Fred Stobaugh’s wife Lorraine passed away earlier this year, he felt he needed to say goodbye one last time.

“She gave me 75 years of her life,” said Stobaugh, recalling “the prettiest girl I ever saw.”

Like many a heartbroken men before him, the 96-year-old sat down to write his “Sweet Lorraine” a song, but after coming up with the lyrics, the melody, and everything in between, he realized he lacked the musical talent to bring his eulogy to life.

Enter: Green Shoe Studio.

The Illinois-based music production outfit just so happened to be running an online singer-songwriter competition aimed at discovering unsung talent, and Fred just so happened to come across an ad for the competition in his local paper.

Not being entirely familiar with the concept of email, Fred instead went the old-fashion route and sent Green Shoe an honest-to-goodness letter with his hopes and dreams tucked inside.

Touched by the story, the studio agreed to fill in the gaps for Fred, and turn the tune in his head into a professionally produced track.

The entire process was captured on film for the short documentary A Letter from Fred — “a poignant story of life, love and music.”

 

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Wish of a Lifetime

This organization grants wishes for the elderly from 80 to 100+…

www.seniorwish.org

The activities director where Blanche lives asked her recently what her wish would be if she could have one wish. Instantly Momma said, “Oh, I’d like to take my family on the Royal Gorge Railroad and have a memorable day doing so….

After long interviews with this organization…Momma now has to choose a new wish.

There was a horrific fire in the Royal Gorge area…and the park will not reopen until late next summer.

CANON CITY, Colo. – The Royal Gorge Fire turned its namesake Colorado landmark into a demolition site, destroying nearly 50 buildings at the once majestic park.

The fire started Tuesday June 11, near Cañon City and burned 3,218 acres of land covered with Piñon-Juniper and Sage brush. Fueled by high winds, the flames crossed the Arkansas River at the Royal Gorge Bridge and Park, a tourist attraction that boasts 26 million crossings of the famed bridge since its opening.

Picnic tables are now charred skeletons after the flames melted the plastic seating. The aerial tram, which was once bright red, is now a scorched metal shell and the terminals that housed it are gone. The famed incline railroad was damaged, but is still intact.

The suspension bridge, perhaps the most recognizable landmark in the park, survived with only damaged boards.

“We replaced about a hundred planks,” said park employee Peggy Gair.“When you got here days later and saw the bridge survived, how did that make you feel?” asked 7NEWS reporter Marc Stewart.

“It was one of the most patriotic moments,” Gair said. “I know it sounds a little corny, but to see this bridge standing, it was like ‘what man made is still standing.’ It was just awesome.”

Park managers say the goal is to replace as much as possible, including the animal figures on the damaged carrousel. The total price tag for the project will be at least $30 million, paid for by an insurance policy.

Park employee Larry Lallemand, who has worked there for over 40 years, is hopeful about the new park that will rise on the footprint of what was lost.

“I see it as being a lot more modernized,” he said.

The goal is to open the bridge for vehicle traffic later this summer. The rest of the park could reopen in about three years.

“The bridge will come back. The park will be open,” said Gair.

This is an amazing organization – and while we wait to find out Momma’s new wish…why don’t you familiarize yourself with this extraordinary non-profit?  Wish of a Lifetime.

The stories are fantastic to read.

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Getting things under control

IMG_3788I am so happy to report that I found a fabulous non-profit in Boulder called Carry-Out Caravan that actually does food shopping for the elderly. It relieves me of some of the duties I do….to have more time for myself…..That is what a caregiver is always looking for…yes?

We survived a 5 day vacay to Durango, me and Momma….it was so wonderful for her to get away from the home…and the constant the home represents to her….And a road trip it was….

New sites and singing…..old stories and giggles….She, as my co-pilot kept me aware of the speed limits through every little town we went! What a tremendous memory we have created….together….

“Can you stop so that I can get a cone of ice cream?”

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The Ins and the Outs…..

_DSF0205Taking care of Momma in the way that I do, surely has me remember what my husband and brother do for her also…This is a shared deal….we all do different things regarding her health and well being…financials and medications…..but we are a team and we must not forget it.

WE need to stick together and not butt heads…the solution is love. forgiveness  and happiness that we still have Momma with us…and yet, sometimes it’s hard…and alot of the time it’s fun. We are up and down, half and half and always watching the ins and outs. as we know we have pleasant, high spirited Mother that makes us laugh most of the time……and in the name of Mother’s Day….there is no Hallmark Card that could say all we need to say to express how damned lucky we feel to have Momma and the family she created…

The above pic is puppy looking at the angel….in gratitude…

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Another reminder for Right Now….by Eckart Tolle

Eckart Tolle: Why You Aren’t At Peace Right Now
As told to Leigh Newman

The author of The Power of Now reveals the things that keep us continually frazzled—and how to remove them from our lives.

Peace is one of the most important human experiences. If you don’t have peace, then you’re not able to appreciate whatever else you do have. In fact, you may not even be able to recognize the good in your life because you have not recognized the good in yourself—yet. Here are a few things that may be getting your way:

1. You Mistake Peace for Unconsciousness

Sometimes people feel peaceful when they become very tired. Others think that peace is what you feel after having a few drinks or taking drugs. (People use these substances, because they long for inner stillness and quiet.) Being half asleep or desensitized by drugs or a few glasses of wine can keep you from feeling your anxiety, fear, anger, resentment or worry. But this relief only lasts a short time. That turmoil is still there—because peace is not unconsciousness. Peace is not being asleep or being numb. It’s the opposite. It’s a state of heightened aliveness, when we become more conscious rather than less, and this requires an awareness of the kinds of thoughts that habitually go through your mind.

2. You Mistake Peace for Happiness

Many people think of happiness as a goal, something you’re working toward that will eventually make you feel good or at peace with your life. To me, however, happiness is usually associated with a high that occurs when something nice happens. You feel happy when you get the job or find a $100 bill on the street. You feel happy leaving for vacation. But very often the vacation doesn’t turn out the way it’s supposed to, or it comes to an end, or while on that vacation you only think about the problems you’re going to find when you come back home. In all of these cases, the happiness is temporary. After a while it subsides, and then, quite often, you’ll even feel suddenly low. Because happiness isn’t peace.

Happiness is actually quite superficial, whereas peace is deeper. Peace is immune to the polarities of life: the highs and lows, the hots and colds, the so-called goods and so-called bads. This is why peace is so crucial. Nobody goes through life without encountering all these experiences, inspiring or upsetting. When someone close to you dies or you have a health problem or you lose our possessions, you probably can’t feel happy. Nobody could. But do you need to feel in absolute despair? Do you need to feel devastated? If you are at peace and connected with that deeper level in you, those kind of emotional extremes don’t occur. You’ll have a calm that is not affected by whatever happens in the world, because you have an acceptance and understanding of whatever happens in the world.

Next: Are you looking the right way?

 

3. You Keep Looking Ahead (or Looking Back)

All too often there is something that hasn’t happened yet (or something that has happened already), which seems to prevent you from inner peace. There’s the job you haven’t gotten or the job you lost. There’s the child you haven’t had or the child that you used to be. But ultimately these are misperceptions; ultimately it’s your mind keeping you from peace, especially the thoughts that you have over and over.

This voice in your head takes you away completely from what is happening now. You’re out in some future moment where things might go wrong or you are trapped in the past where you are continuously replaying an old movie in your mind about the time you failed a school examination or someone said something unkind. You’re stuck, but you can’t see it. The movie feels like an absolute reality, and it keeps you from truly acknowledging or appreciating life as it is now. But it’s not reality. You can’t see the present. You’re too busy with where you want to be next (or where you were), which causes continual stress. The only solution is awareness, awareness that the voice in your head is really just repeating thoughts—no more, no less.

4. You Strain Away from the Present Moment

Not only does our mind strain away from the calm of the present moment, it also judges and interprets such a moment—usually negatively. For example, let’s pretend a co-worker just received a promotion. The voice in your head says that you should have gotten the promotion or that your boss just prefers that co-worker, even though you’re the stronger candidate.

In this case—and most cases—it’s not the external circumstance (not getting job) that’s making you unhappy but what you’re telling yourself about those circumstances (“It’s not fair!”). In other words, your thoughts are making you unhappy. When you change this habit, you will stop resisting what is happening in your life. You can become friendly with the present moment and find an opening into the spiritual dimension. This is one of the most important spiritual practices in the search for peace. Old irritations—like being trapped in a traffic jam—are no longer upsetting or anxiety provoking. You become internally aligned with the reality of what is happening: You are in a car, you aren’t moving…that is all. You don’t have a problem, not right this second. You might even notice a mother singing to a child in a neighboring car or the vibrant blue of the sky. You have become friendly with life itself, and with the experiences offered you everywhere.

5. You Don’t Fully Trust…Yet

There is an intelligence in the movement of life, which goes far beyond the limited intelligence of your thinking mind. This is the spirit. When you begin to trust in your spirit and life itself, you begin to feel a peace. You are no longer separate from that greater intelligence from which life unfolds, you are no longer to trying to get somewhere else or find something missing.

The old religious word for this kind of trust is “faith.” Some Christians would say they have faith in God, some would say they have faith in a higher power, but whatever name people chose, they are talking about that which underlies all life. Peace comes from this trust. Peace comes from being aligned with the present moment. Wherever you are, you feel that you are home—because you are home.

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A reminder….Being in Gratitude

(written in 1997 by LCS)

The road is long, but this time it’s clear. I walk stead fast and sturdy, clearly intentional on this path. All I see is light light light at the end of this road. I journey with joy in my heart, as the elementals dance in the shadows of the sun trying to keep up with me. I carry a song of love in my pocket ready to share the lyrics with anyone I meet. Though I am learning discernment, my journey is my own. And there are times I feel alone…I am not.

Love surrounds every morsel of my soul and I am enjoying that I am going no place in particular….I walk in faith and hope that many come into my vision and if requested I share my wisdom and songs of the years. I am reminded of the days gone by of the dark times I never thought would end. I always had an inner sense and clear voices whispering in my ear. Throughout time, I learned to listen. And in the silence it lifted me to higher ground. It takes time to learn to listen and I share that with many. Being quiet, being still, listening for the sounds of your heartbeat puts things in a proper perspective. When you get in touch with the sound of your own humanity you are truly empowered to dance to your humanly music. Waking up to celebrate YOU is what I am talking about.

There is constant surprise with ideas and possibilities. I feel honored to be in this life and on this journey. So worth the speed bumps, stop signs and drive.

I am spun to new realities to share. I know one thing. I am here and this is real. 

 

 

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